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Tuesday, August 7, 2007

If you could turn back time....would you?

If you were able to go back in time to any point in your life, knowing what you know now, would you? What age would you go back to? What would you do differently?

6 Comments:

Anonymous said...

Yes, I actually think about this often - if we could go back knowing what we know now and do it again...but there are really only a few things I would do differently.

I would go back to the day before my mom died so I could say my good-byes. I hadn't seen her for a month before she suddenly passed away because we were so busy trying to save our business. We actually drove right by her house that evening before she passed away, but we saw she had company so we didn't stop in, and that has always been my biggest regret. So I would go back to that day and stop in this time to see her.

Anonymous said...

What a good question!
OK...

I would. YES absolutely! What age would I go back to? I would go back to right before I got married.... and then I would just say no to the "married" part but "yes" to long term commitment.

I remember when my marriage was breaking up, I was struggling to figure out who I was and where to go from there, when my uncle came for a visit.

He told me that when he and his wife got married - they were both really young, 16 I think, and she was pregnant, and it just wasn't working out at all.. they were fighting all the time - it was terrible.

So, they decided that for the sake of the baby, they would agree to get along for a year, and at the end of that year, they would get a divorce.

Come the end of the year, and they didn't want to get a divorce anymore. So, they agreed to make a go of it for another year....

They are still married and I'm sure it's more than 50 years later.

That's the kind of marriage I would insist on IF I could go back in time.... so many things would be different if my marriage had been good - or if it was never going to be "good", so many things would be different if I had escaped it earlier...

So.. that's where I'd start.

Yowsers! Great question Cindy!

Cindy H said...

I struggle with the answers to this question because if I went back in time and KNEW my kids' dad was going to molest and abuse them, it's easy to say that I wouldn't have married him and had the kids. BUT if I didn't marry him and have the kids, I wouldn't have the kids now! And if I married somebody else instead, I would have completely DIFFERENT kids than I have now, so I wouldn't want that!

But if I did go back and didn't change anything, and knew ahead of time that he was going to hurt them, I couldn't do that.

So.... I guess what I would do is go ahead and marry him and have the 2 kids, then as soon as my daughter was born, RUN LIKE HELL!!! And hope he never found us!

And by the way, don't you think it's funny how in the movies when people go back in time to high school, they are totally able to remember what classes they had, where there lockers were, and all their friends names? I sure couldn't!!!

Anonymous said...

Cindy, a funny thing is that I still remember my locker # from high school! 1155. I don't remember the combination anymore though - that would really just be weird!!

Anonymous said...

I have recurring dreams of going back to high school and then I can't remember where my classes are, I can't remember where my locker is, I can't remember the combination to my locker... and sometimes I'm ok with it - wandering around highschool lost, and other times it's a horrible nightmare.

And Cindy, I totally understand your dilema... and then, add to it that if you ran like hell with your kids - would you then have your granddaughter?

Cindy H said...

Wow, Shirley, good point! I hadn't thought about not having Lexi!!

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