What's the carrot at the end of your stick? Ultimately, what is it that motivates you the most?
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Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Carrots anyone?
Posted by Shirley Twofeathers at 10:42 AM
Labels: goals, motivation, self improvement, what
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For me, I think it's approval. I do more things, endure more agony, jump through more hoops, and have more angst over the approval of others than any other thing.
I wonder if that would go away if I began to approve of myself more often?
My carrot is the hope I have for the way things might be. Whether that's my body being stronger and slimmer or having a fabulous new career or having all my bills paid off so I can feel like my money is my own. That's what motivates me to keep moving forward toward those dreams.
I think my carrot is to feel worthy, appreciated and loved. It seems like every time I try to move forward in my career, my prosperity, my living conditions, or my search for a life partner, I get knocked to the ground. Hard! This has been going on for so many years in all of those areas that it has ALMOST broken my spirit at times. I truly think that if it weren't for my daughter and my granddaughter's existence, I probably would have given up on life - yes, I am talking about "checking out permanently"! Those two young ladies' existence has literally been the carrot that has kept me from ever considering suicide!
(I do appreciate my friends, too, I must add!)
Cindy... I had an interesting conversation with my sister the other day. We were talking about my current trauma drama with my daughter, (long story there)and I made the comment that inevitably when I see other people doing stuff that I don't approve of, it reflects something in my own self that I don't want to acknowledge...
Our discussion evolved... and finally I asked myself the question what if everything in my life was a mirror showing me - sometimes in the most dramatic way possible - how I feel about me.
And I realized that not only do I have within myself all those qualities that are annoying me about my daughter... I am also responding to my bad qualities the same way she is responding to me... and then I started wondering about every thing...
Like even mosquitoes and bugs.. What bugs me? How do I respond to annoying stinging things? And is there a loving compassionate way to approach every aspect in my life? How do I shut myself off? How do I hang up on me?
It was a long and thoughtful meditation and it's still ongoing...
Anyway, I'm wondering now if by changing my own response to me, my "mirrors" will have to change as well.
I'll keep you posted... we'll see if Sky ever speaks to me again. Right now she's sure that she won't (which also means punishing me by not allowing me to see my grandchildren). And so I'm working on how I keep myself from what I love, and how I "punish" me for percieved shortcomings...
It's interesting... and I felt compelled to share it with you since we are so often so much alike.
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